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Enhance your marital intimacy

A discreet and anonymous referral helpline run by women for questions and concerns regarding intimacy in every stage of life.

"Mutually enjoyable intimacy is the glue between a husband & wife"

(Pirush Rashi Bereshis 2:24; Sanhedrin 58a,b)

The Torah’s view of marital intimacy is that physical relations between a husband and wife are meant to be mutually bonding and pleasurable. The Ani Ledodi helpline was founded to address the growing need for frum women to discuss marital intimacy-related difficulties in a private, safe, and non-judgemental way.

About the Ani Ledodi Helpline

The helpline is staffed by dedicated volunteers, many of whom have years of experience in the areas of hilchos taharas hamishpacha, sexual health, and marriage therapy. Our helpline has no caller ID, allowing complete anonymity. Mentoring the helpline volunteers are Lizzie Rubin (RN, MS, AASECT) of Har Nof, Israel, and Rebbitzen Leah Brown from Far Rockaway, N.Y. Lizzie Rubin is a certified relationship and sex therapist who specializes in working with individuals and couples, and Rebbitzen Leah Brown is a veteran kallah teacher and wife of renowned Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Moshe Brown. The hotline’s Mora D’asra is Rabbi Noach Isaac Oelbaum of Queens, NY, known for his uncompromising dedication to halacha and unwavering sensitivity towards women.

Professional Referrals

We can recommend relationship, pelvic floor, and sex therapists, OB/GYNs and nurse practitioners who are familiar with halacha and Jewish customs.

A Listening Ear

Sometimes you just need to talk it out. Call the helpline anonymously to speak to a trained advisor who understands your hashkafa. There is no caller ID so that each call is strictly confidential.

Halachic Guidance

We can help you find sensitive Rabbonim, kallah teachers, and Bodekets who can answer your specific intimacy-related halacha questions.

We're here for you

General marital intimacy concerns
Questions about intimacy through all stages of the lifecycle
Medical-related issues that affect intimacy
Halachic questions relating to intimacy
Questions related to shana rishona, fertility, postpartum and menopause

Feedback about the helpline

"I am very pleased to hear about the Ani Ledodi helpline. As a frum OB/GYN, I have recognized in more than one patient a shyness and extreme discomfort to ask questions about intimacy. Upon hearing about the Ani Ledodi helpline I am thrilled for these young women who can now discuss their issues in the anonymity of their homes and be encouraged to seek help from the right professionals. Much Hatzlacha!"

"The intimacy hotline will be a wonderful and important resource for married women. It is vital to have a place to turn to for guidance, validation and help. So many women, both newly married and even those who have been married for decades, are often at a loss when faced with questions regarding intimate issues. This hotline will fill that void and provide an invaluable tool for our community."

"Kol HaKavod! This sounds absolutely amazing and so needed! Your website is highly professional, informative, and inviting."

"The world has been waiting for this!"

"What you are pioneering is so necessary."

"Your helpline is strengthening Klal Yisroel by supporting the core of the Jewish home."

You've got Questions- We've got Answers

Below are some questions which have come our way:

"I'm not enjoying intimacy the way I imagined; can you give me some advice?"
"I'm going through menopause, and I'm having some embarrassing symptoms. What's normal?"
"I'm married three months and being intimate with my husband is really painful. Is that typical?"
"My kallah teacher told me to let him do whatever he wants, but some things make me feel uncomfortable."
"I'm married 30 years and have a great marriage, but our intimate life can use a boost. Are there resources out there for frum couples?"
"My kallah teacher said something that doesn’t work for us and I'm confused."

"I just had my first baby and intimacy is painful; is this typical?
"I feel guilty enjoying certain things that I suspect are not ok; who can I talk to?"
"I'm busy with 3 small kids and I just don't have the emotional space for intimacy. Do you have any advice for me?"
"My husband wants to be intimate very often (or not often enough); what's considered normal?"
"I'm married two years and we're still not pregnant. Maybe we're not doing it right?"
"I have questions and I don’t feel comfortable talking to someone I know because they will never look at me the same."